When people think about getting divorced, they may imagine a couple that is antagonistic towards each other to try to get as much as they can from their divorce settlement. While this is a possibility, it's mainly based off of what you see in movies and on television. A divorce can actually be a collaborative effort when both spouses agree that it is time to end their marriage. Here are some reasons to use collaborative divorce proceedings.
Keep The Decisions In Your Hands
One of the biggest benefits of using collaborative divorce proceedings is that you will ultimately have the final say in matters related to the divorce. Many people do not realize how much control they can have, which includes making custody arrangements, division of property, and spousal support. Once you step into a courtroom, that final decision over these matters will be taken out of your hands and given to a judge. You could end up having a ruling that neither person is happy with, but you have to abide by.
Make Meetings Less Stressful
By not going to the courtroom, you will feel more at ease making most of your discussions in mediation. You can even make decisions about things in a one-on-one setting, which will cut down on the hours you are paying a lawyer to help assist with the mediation. This can make the whole process less stressful for you, since you'll avoid going to court where you may feel anxious about what is happening.
Prevent Future Problems
When you are making a collaborative decision with a spouse about your pending divorce, it causes you to take ownership over the agreement that you decided on. It may help prevent you from feeling bitter about the final decision, since you were a big part of coming up with it and actually agreeing on it. While it's not impossible to avoid those feelings, coming up with your joint decision makes it feel like something you you had input on.
That said, collaborative divorce proceedings are not for everyone. For example, situations with domestic violence can make it difficult to move forward with divorce proceedings, or when there are major disagreements about custody. In these situations, you may be better off working with your divorce lawyer to take your case to court. They can help fight on your behalf to get you the outcome that you are seeking from your divorce settlement.